This post is part of a series about “should” We learn about shoulds from seeing other people judge us, themselves, and others. For the sake of this (admittedly one-sided) conversation, let’s say that to judge is to decide if something is good or bad, right or wrong. A judgment is very much an exercise in …
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Pain itself is not the problem. Pain is not wrong. Resisting the existence of pain is what causes suffering.
On Our Last Episode… In a previous post, I shared some thoughts about how the word “should” causes us so much suffering. The short version is: The initial event (waking up too late, being cut off in traffic, stubbing our toe, or having rain start when we want to go for a walk) doesn’t usually …
Most of us think we suffer because of things that happen to us. That isn’t true. We suffer because of how we talk to ourselves about things that happen to us. More specifically, we suffer because we insist that things should be different: People should be treating us differently. We should be acting differently. The …
